First, BE a person with whom he would be dying to connect. And that doctor he threatened to sue likely saved his son's life. I like what Melissa said earlier, about becoming the person our husbands fell in love with. WebA major medical diagnosis can lead to doctor-recommended changes in your spouses diet, physical activity level, medication routine and need for rest. Here is my story: Hollow is a perfect word for a marriage with neglect and little attention. If she's sick, and the kids need something, she's on her own. It's the thought that matters <3. The codependent wife moved back without his help and then he said he wasn't going back to therapy after one session. WebIs it normal for a husband to not take care of his wife when she falls sick? Someone who would listen to MY dreams, and want that for me, as much as I want his dreams and goals for him, and to help each other achieve those, if in our power. Hearing him speak kindly of other folks, being gentler in his speech, since he KNOWS how unkind the world can be. Reach out in an inviting way. Maybe she doesnt even realize shes doing it. I can't help but think there is SOMETHING ELSE WRONG WITH HIM. So many of the situations seem so crazily familiar. That's great! H's definition of love is thisafter I asked him "What does love mean to you?" And one of the most troubling scenarios where you see this is when the wife becomes so upset that she cries and the husbands response is indifference, anger, frustration, or denial. And when things happen to the kids the "mom" is always like I didn't know he would do that to our kids and abuse them even though I did. Thanks. Out of character. Even though we were engaged and had a date set, I still shouldn't have gotten pregnant, and THAT action left me with something that I would have to deal with the rest of my life. WebMy (soon to be) ex wife had little sympathy whenever I was sick, and honestly it really sucked. Sometimes it's commitment to dinner hour where you discuss things together (rather than eating alone). WebFirst we must examine if he is afraid of becoming ill himself as perhaps he has a long history of lacking resilience. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 09:54. So i'm just learning but this is an ADHD trait? registered trademarks of Ziff Davis Canada, Inc. and may not be used by third parties without When you marry, the two working, bill-paying adults in the house should set the important stuff togetherlike budget, schedule, vacations, house rules. How does someone even DO that? I'm taking care of the kids, cleaning the house, making meals. That's not even in my nature.". Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Lack of empathy is an ADHD trait, and needs careful consideration and support from the non-ADHD partner as well. I do not think I will see a lasting change because myspousewith ADD is alwaysout for himself. He has the attitude of "Well, that's the past", "this is now". Submitted by vabeachgal on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 18:15. There is a lot going on in that active brain and it takes a lot of inward attention to keep going. And vice versa if she's the one down ill. Can't really prepare good food when you're nauseous and fked up all over. WebMy girlfriend thinks I don't care for her but I do she's been sick for the past two days and I been trying to be nice by doing mostly everything for her I have to walk her to the bathroom give her medicine wash dishes pick up her groceries try to cook even though I'm not that good at it I have to get the bathtub filled for her I try my best to (pleasantly though, I LOVE MY DAUGHTER, and am glad she was born) My example is though, that people really DON'T want long term consequences for their actions, and in today's world, excuses and denials are what so many folks use to get "out of" having to live with the results of their own actions. out of the basement and towards you) and that ADHD symptoms are poorly managed. All big red flags. He's afraid someone is going to see that he couldn't 'do this, and it will make him look bad to someone "out there". This means you may think it's obvious when you need a hug or some connection, but they may not 'see' it. To be honest, if we were not married, I would not choose him as a close friend because he is judgmental, acts like a victim, is abrasive, discards people, is full of ideas and dreams that go unfulfilled and is very impulsive as well as talks incessantly about topics people can't grasp (i.e quantum mechanics- high IQ, low common sense). However I do notice every time I'm sick, my husband acts as if he sick. Submitted by Punkin on Fri, 03/10/2017 - 07:12. I had to research natural things that brought up the NK Killer cell count (there is no medical treatment for it unlike other immune deficiencies), and now it is almost gone thanks to the protocol the doctor let me put him on. Privacy That's his job. Submitted by Exhaustedlady87 (not verified) on Fri, 11/15/2019 - 16:54. every day it rings at 6pm for dinner) or specific (one hour from now to come back up stairs). I'm tired . He refused to tend to me as I was going into shock. I have no compassion in my heart for this and I have no means to find it or excuse this as anything more than totally Fucked Up Shit!!! Submitted by DependentOrigination on Tue, 12/13/2016 - 10:32. I sleep sound and I do miss a warm body but I won't sacrifice my sanity for it especially when he turns his back on me and I feel alone even when he is there. I hear you, I cant count the number of times my husband made it very clear that myillness was a hughinconvenience for him there was no thought to how it made me feel. Submitted by dedelight4 on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 22:58. People with ADHD don't have to miss movies because they lose track of timethey just have to learn toset alarms. If you feel leaving him will make you happy then do it. I was out of character. If the tables were turned, I know he'd be acting like he was at death's door if he simply had the sniffles. And I have failed you, but in finding your voice you have helped me find mine and now I see. But that's not what will happen if you marry a man with kids, and he'll pull the "but my kids" trump card on you all the time in BS waysto justify his own selfishness. THAT, was fear. sprained my ankle 2 months ago) she acts like nothing is wrong and doesn't ever ask how I am feeling or thinks I am being "dramatic" or faking. I was in bed all day too weak to get up and walk let alone do anything else. in Child and Adolescent Development and then an M.A. I do believe he loves me. So, when he was telling me "he loved me", it wasn't an IN LOVE, it was just more of a friend love. We want to hear your story. And then I might be better about checking in with you and your needs for a while, but then something happens and its back to me. ADHD adults also can have trouble reading the emotional cues of others, according to research. The one hoarding in the place you are trying to sell? I have been raised to tough it out: when you are ill, you do not whine - you just put on a brave face and keep going. Sorry guys, I just had to vent and get it out of my system. Do you have kids that were sick too? There are times I still wonder how our husbands can continue to deny who they are, and why so MANY people, have difficulty with them. You must have JavaScript enabled to use this form. Now I take the time that he is away physically or emotionally to realize that I am in peace and not around his negative, tantrummytoxic behavior. (Soup after you just threw up is too soon). a pleasure". What does it take to stop running into these types of people? Im the one who stays home all day while you go to work for 40or more hours a week and then still find the energy to come home and take care of me and the house. https://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/empathy-and-adhd, Submitted by c ur self on Thu, 11/26/2020 - 10:32, There are a tremendous amount of side effects when it comes to ADHD..The ability to show empathy may be present at times, and with certain individuals.Spousal empathy can be effected by numerous things.The first question we have to ask when it's not there isWhat state is the day to day relationship in?If the answer is Not great!Then that is one place you have to go with human beings, ADHD or not.But, hyper focus is a major player.Selfishness and self absorbed minds are major players.Distraction as well as addiction will also play a role if present.Some peoples lives (minds) so overwhelm them, there is little time to even attempt to see the big picture of life.(If the capability is even there). Jan 14, 2018. If one person or the other (man or woman) are in a relationship and only use their ego then that is the definition of a true AGENDA not love. Some people wait until the water is visibly murky before performing maintenance on the tank. Talk to her and use 'I need" statements. But it was terrible to watch my child suffer like that. No expression. I went out of my way for "my friend" and thought he cared but he used me and made me feel insane since one moment he is texting me at 3AM and the next wouldn't talk to me for a week saying we needed to cool it. After I broke my foot, the Orthopedist put me in a non weight bearing cast. 2 yrs ago I was in a serious car accident. Nothing. Thank you for reminding me that it's me and my wife with each other now. Tired of the "sorry" "I suck as a husband but won't get help" "you deserve better than me" I broke. Life goes on around us when we are sick. You never falter. It is obvious that ADD people rarely change for any measurable amount of time. The saying goes, "Don't be mad when I pull a you, on you." Make sure that the timing is convenient for both of you. This is daunting to say the least. If you want to connect with your partner the 'trick' is two fold. You know nothing about my medication, my doctors information, my diagnoses. 2022 Mighty Proud Media, Inc. All Rights Reserved. OMG. Its your life not theres. Well, then, I say. There's a few things that are scaring him, and he is right to be concerned. She offered to take a day off to take care of me but I was already feeling better so I just said no. Fortunately, I feel a little better now. The only family Im in contact with is my 91-year-old mother who lives an hour away. He thinks about "whatever", in the moment he's in. Submitted by dedelight4 on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 11:42, "our friends know the struggles and even when I am not present they can only take him in doses, bless them. Not a very nice thing to do to someone you say you "love". I didn't get medical help until nearly 12 hours later. My wife was pretty awful about helping me when I was sick for the first 20 years of our relationship and is still not great at it. He is Always the "Victim" and Everything is Always My Fault! Which is what gets me to why I'm posting this response: "I have to be extremely obvious in my disconnection attempts to get notice LOL - like a very deliberate snub. This is a personality disorder. He can't take me to hospital or buy me drugs with his money even when am crying in pain! Everyone, strangers and those that love and tolerate him see an issue. I offered to set it up on his phone but of course he won't relinquish his phone, which is another story, and the primary basis of my divorce request. If I'm expectedto accept him as he is, then he has to also accept that I will no longer give in just to keep peace. When I was3 months pregnant, wetook a trip to Mexico. Love. It sucks but thats what it is. Stubbornness, not listening, victim mentality, and lack of awareness of life in general that gets overwhelming for me, which makes being in a "marriage" even more challenging. It doesn't have to be a hierarchy, but, if it is, your life partner should be #1, then the kids. He stormed up to me, angrily, shouting WHAT THE HELL WERE YOU THINKING? I told her that as long as I took it slow, I would be OK. My husband didn't offer to help, he just stood there, and I could hear the wheels turning in his head. All this crap about his kids "coming first" is just thatcrap. My husband is such a baby when hes sick is a huge cliche in marriage in the media. The only thing he has genuinely shared from his therapy was the conclusion that he lies to everyone all the time. I do this sometimes. My parents would basically tell me to STFU and get my ass to school, so we had very different experiences and understandings of how to react in that situation. My "H" is 100% total Narcissistic! Need help with your relationship? OMG. Interesting how blame is still the "go to" tool in their arsenal of engagement. You can find even more stories on our Home page. Im worried and curious what to look for. Thankfully, our two children were happy to help me. with love respect and truth! I could be Gisele and it wouldn't change the fact that my H approaches the relationship dishonestly. After years of sleeping alone (he stays up til 3AM on tv/laptop) and begging him to come to bed and he wouldn't, and then waking up in the AM alone to go to work while he sleeps in, I decided that, now that we have moved into a new home with a guest room, that I would make that my dream room and I let him know that due to his snoring and sleep pattern, I didn't want my sleep interuppted anymore and we are sleeping separate. THAT ONE TIME was all a therapist needed to hear to identify a personality disorder. My wife wants to be left alone all I want is take care of her just be there for her to help her I don't understand when I'm sick I love for her to take care of me maybe just hold my hand any one can help me, After 22 years of marriage , I've learned this the hard way and am done once our oldest has graduated high school. Being unhelpful when someone is sick or injured strongly suggests either Borderline PD or Narcissistic PD. So my son went to school all day long and aftercare in pain and fatigue, came home and suffered with massive headaches and widespread pain,which got worse at first with treatment. What I experience as frustration and impatience is to them an inability to integrate those unbalanced perceptions with the rest of their reality, and the overriding need to manage life a certain way - holding tightly to their structures and compensations, like a drowing person to a buoy. Isn't THAT ironic? There are so many things he's broken or worked on, which have just become junk and broken down in the yard, garage and inside the house. That's just Here is another way to think about it. This is a great take. I don't believe the behavior is intentional in my case. So I choose to let it go and know he is limited by the ADHD and other disorders that are undiagnosed until he can be humble and let go of his pride, and that right there is bigger than any disorder one can have. With my dh, he doesn't react well to any kind of situation when his filters are down (and always always at home) -- there was that time when I fell against a window in a freak accident -- breaking my humeris and dislocating my shoulder on the radiator at the same time. It is a difficult way to have to be for someone whose nature isbenevolent and caring but it seems thesequalities are manipulated by the ADD spouse making the non spousefeel worthless. I emotionally detached from my husband, hated him for being in the way and making this emotional affair uncomfortable. I did it again. Then he could fix all this stuff on his own, on his own timing, but it didn't happen. I WISH I was kidding. I will not call for a man when I am sick. Maybe I'm just expecting a bit too much. His kids are always going to come before you. 3. I hope he gets the help he needs! It's not just the ADHD, but he won't go get a full evaluation. Ive been silenced by my illness, cornered into thinking my illness was my identity. I count my lucky stars his empathy score wasn't way off neurotypical, but even so, it is affected, and I do notice he's MUCH better about me being ill when he's just had what I've caught, because he doesn't have to imagine how I feel, he knows from personal experience. Hinting at your desires will most likely push her further away. Anyway, I got way off track here. In the second, you instell a desire to avoid you, not connect. WebI love my wife. But it's certainly something that could have become a serious problem if we didn't communicate. Born with a congenital heart condition, she survived two open heart surgeries before age 4. Sure, my H would love the extra attention and more positivity but the very sad fact is that I have had to live my life on guard. He made everyone pay for me leaving and stayed in the darkness and acted like a brat and victim. We already talked and we good now. I think so. Set up a way for it to not be inconsistent. Your sweatn the small stuff it's normal. (again, fear). I will keep that in mind. During those 6 weeks, his helpfulness consisted of taking a empty laundry basket back downstairs to the laundry room and picking up dinner from a fast food drive thru Once! No excuse on either side. My husband has a 'man cold' right now. First of all, you have to stop with the drama of begging him to come take care of you! But the AD/HD is so strong, it overrides that. This has been validating. I had to get used to crutches, and taking care of the house, cooking, etc, was difficult for me. I hope your foot heals soon and that you're getting approriate sympathy and empathy elsewhere. No wonder folks with ADHD have built up some walls. So yes, I was sick and I gave myself the day and decided to go to work where I am around normal people that dote on me. this was my question. I paid for every cent at that point and insurance for me/him. (Statements I've heard dozens of times, and heard again this week). Submitted by Jr4par83 on Mon, 11/23/2020 - 21:27. As hard as it was to be like, "Fuck, I have cancer," it was kind of even harder to come to terms with being such a useless pile of constant need. Talking to a friend may be helpful, but you might also consider discussing your feelings with a mental health professional. Kids pick up on stuff they're not ****ed. I really do want out of the marriage but don't have the guts at my age. Its a cultural thing as a whole. You also don't have a role model to teach or even show you HOW to connect. I even passed out in front of my kids on the floor, and they had to yell at him to help me. That can be very hard to do! Don't worry your anxiety to high and relax. I felt so good in the beginning, the wanted to die from the guilt and then angry when I realized I was even more codependent with this guy. Hewas an abusive, narcissistic Asshole. BTW, when ourkids are sick he is mean and heartless. Pain beyond belief. I do believe the process may work if it s just adhd or adhd lite and there aren't significant co morbidities or emotional, physical or substance abuse and life is stable otherwise, ie no major financial complications. Press J to jump to the feed. An the cycle continues. Good point. And although I don't think I have verbalized it completely just yet, I KNOW that THIS is the total crux of MY difficulty with H. We LOVE differently. He made me pay that year for leaving. Your husband is a narcissist, sorry to say. If they get ill first, and then I get ill? Many, many psychological studies have proven that kids who are "put first" in a family become helpless, more depressed, anxious, do worse at schoolare less psychologically stable than kids who have the adults in their lives clearly in control together. Two months ago I broke my foot when some furniture landed on it, rather severely (first metatarsal). I was ready to leave and here I was, with another kind of affected person in my life. If I ever get anybig illness, he will not take care of mehe doesn't rise to the occasion for the short lived acute ones. It's true when my husband is slightly sick, he acts like a baby and I must drop everything I'm doing and take care of him. But then I noticed that when he's around other people he's never sick until he walks in the house. I think the explanation for her behavior lies in a few traits from her background: Latina with history of macho men in her past. He would scream at me if I touched him that I was killing him. There's definitely a disconnect. By then its too late. You might be thinking, wow, why be with someone like that? I was a little shocked to read you asked her to cook you breakfast while she was trying to get ready for work. That's not even in my nature. I thrive from who I am independently although I still try to be a good wife and hold down most of the responsibilities that keep our family looking good for the most part. He shows no concern for me - and this has to be narcissistic personality disorder. Submitted by thparkle on Tue, 03/20/2018 - 11:36. What should I do? Submitted by peach on Tue, 12/13/2016 - 16:07. You know where I keep my emergency information, when to call 911. And my lack of ability to insist on my needs put me in a ditch with a broken neck on my moms 60 birthday. I was "out of commission" for 6 weeks. I do agree with you. Of course. Yes, the victim mentality and what you said is so true. You only get 1 life and your life matters, period. I grew up in a house where you were basically quarantined when sick. She was in her second semester of college and was busy with school and work. Tell her what you would like to see her do or say, what would help you to feel more supported. But I text him and found out his wife was bipolar and in and out of hospitals. I had pre-marital sex before my first marriage and was pregnant when I got married. Partners are supposed to have each others backs, even when it doesnt seem like the best thing to do. Keep in mind that on his days off (F,ST,SN), he Does NOTHING! I don't think this is necessarily an ADHD thing. Qualities many w ADDdo not possess. Its good to have a healthy balance. Or begging him to drive you home. Then we must note that he attempts, albeit it is poor and generic advice, to advise you on your illness. It was horrible since I did it secretly. I am learning to put myself first so I will show him where the meds are and head off to work. explicit permission. To us I should say. Right now I'm back at the house trying to get some stuff in order. We're still at the beginning of our diagnostic and therapeutic journey. I can understand mentioning it to him and maybe even asking, but begging?? Until you are burnt out, and I finally notice something is wrong. he gets very angry. Being in a constantly defensive state (as are the chronic blamers of the world) means ADHD adults can become really good at detachingand awful at attaching. A place for sharing the for-better and for-worse of marriage. (Dirt, dust, cob webs, grease, filth, trash, broken stuff, computer junk, all over) Then there is the paperwork all over the place and our finances to get through. Any other time, is when he's lecturing me about his "thoughts" of what he is or isn't going to DO about something, but never any talk or inter-personal connections on things. Don't misunderstand me - I get it. I guess its just a character flaw of his! Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. I was hospitalized for 3 days after that since I was infected by the local food and I was pregnant. Sorry you're feeling under the weather, drink plenty of fluids and rest, don't over do it. He hates the snow. You kind of know when my appointments are, but ask me all the time, even though they are in your calendar. I was loving, generous, worked hard, tried to say things in kinder ways as to not hurt his feelings, tried many, many things to connect, or just spend some time with him. I am very organized so I planned for thenext 20 days. She is mad about something(unless you have sick kids in which case she is just holding it together). ever heard of obsessive compulsive personality disorder? We havent heard from you in a while, and Im hoping you are ok. Sign #8: He is fine with you hanging around other men. 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